My (32F) bf (30M) just told me he doesn't like when I squirt. This is a first for me as usually most are into it. "I'm not into the water works" is what he said, and I know he isn't into watersports. (Me either really, but squirting is it's own thing or can be a transition due to it having some urine in it, but I digress.)
For me, it's completely involuntary, and it takes someone hitting a certain spot, deep enough and with enough pressure to be able to make my body do that (and he is well above average so if anything this is a compliment).
This also happened after I was already done playing with myself with a toy bigger than him, and I still didn't squirt from that… I really enjoy having sex with him but more I realize he has done a lot to get me off without penetration because I think he wanted to avoid me squirting.
I am hesitant to go to the bathroom first because:
1) Its often hard for me to get truly turned on for sex and ACTUALLY self-lubricate. Going to the bathroom means wiping away my natural lubrication that honestly holds some emotional significance. Cheesey I know, but I am also demisexual who can become really into my partner / signficant other once that bond is established…
2) I'm worried that going to the bathroom beforehand will
a) Not work, and I still squirt anyways
b) Work, but it means I feel less and don't orgasm…
I just hate feeling gross for an involuntary thing my body does… I was even dehydrated and it still happened…
Yes, we have waterproof blankets. 2 of them. He got them specifically for me, before we were dating. We know how to handle the mess. At this point it's more of him being put off / grossed out / turned off / idk by what my body does of it's own free will…
If anyone has been able to stop squirting, please let me know how you were able to control it. What worked for you?
Edit: He and I actually talked after and he said that if it's something that my body just does then we'll just deal with it.
As someone else said: The messiness kills spontaneity. We will find a way to work with / around this.