i (f22) have never been able to make myself orgasm in any “conventional” way (fingering, clit stimulation, penetration) and have never orgasmed with a sexual partner from receiving oral sex – though i have only had one sexual partner my whole life and we only attempted to have sex maybe 5 times together. i say attempted because penetration was too painful for me, every single time.
i feel like there is something seriously wrong with me, this has been an issue for years but i think ive reached a point where im tired of still not knowing myself and not being able to orgasm.
i know that a lot of people i talk to also don’t like certain sensations or know that they can’t orgasm solely from penetration or fingering, but for some reason i can’t even make myself finish from clit stimulation. it starts to feel nice, but then as the feeling builds up i actually feel overstimulated and it starts to not feel good anymore? it feels too “electric” but not in a good way… so i just stop and i never let myself finish.
the only way i have ever been able to orgasm has been incredibly unconventional (i have not been able to talk to anyone about this because i feel super insecure and abnormal about it) but basically the first thing is that i need to kind of feel like i need to pee (i know that sometimes with female anatomy the bladder can press and put pressure against certain areas that feel good), and i’ll lay on my side and cross my legs over each other super tight and do a bunch of kegels??? the sensation is good and it builds up, i can control the sensation on how fast and long i hold the kegels for, but unlike clit stimulation it doesn’t overstimulate me, it actually feels better and better until i do orgasm. it’s weird i know please don’t judge me I’m just at a loss for what to do.
i want to be normal so badly, i want to be able to make myself orgasm normally and i want to be able to enjoy sex with other people. can anyone else relate to this or give me some advice on how to overcome the overstimulation?