I (26F) took my Xbox in to EB to get serviced the other day and was waiting in line on the phone to my best friend literally talking about how I was ready to get back into dating again now that I was finished uni for the year. I was mindlessly yapping about how I have the bandwidth to invest in meeting people but feel ridiculously disillusioned with dating apps before it was my turn to be served.
I turned up to the desk and the guy (looked about the same age?) who helped me was so cute. Well kept, a bit toned, polite. We didn't really have any conversation beyond what the problem with the console was but I think he was new at the job, and had to ask for help from one of his coworkers who was super sweet. I don't know why but I just found it really endearing and he was really thankful for my patience (of course, I didn't mind, all the more time to admire lol). It wasn't much to go off but I had to call my friend back after leaving to tell her how cute he was and that I thought maybe I should give him my Instagram when I come back to pick my Xbox up.
Here's where I need advice: I don't need any convincing on whether I should do it or not. I'm hopeful that even if it doesn't work out, he won't take it as anything other than flattery. But what I'm stuck on is the delivery.
On the one hand, Instagram feels a bit safer because I would likely see his face in his pfp and he would see mine on the chance I need to hand the note to one of his coworkers if he's not there when I go back. But my Instagram is also pretty personal. It has everything on there from my political beliefs, to my mental health journey, to my hobbies, to a semi-revealing photo of myself in a swimsuit. I'm not ashamed of any of it, but it's just a lot more to sift through than someone might find on a dating profile and it might come across as a bit much.
On the other, I could pass on my phone number, in case he doesn't have Instagram, and which feels less revealing. But if I have to pass the note to one of his coworkers, there's no guarantee that it would be him that would (hopefully) respond, and I don't feel confident enough to ask for a photo straight out the gate.
How would you approach it?
I guess there's the other question of, if you were in his shoes, because we only really spoke for at most 5-10 minutes and I only got in a tiny bit of flirting, would you feel flattered or creeped out by receiving a customer's phone number/IG?
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No I would not be creeped out and yes I would be flattered if I got a girls number or insta. I would say provide whatever you feel more comfortable with. I think insta you are letting him see a lot more personal side of yourself that you might not be ready to share.