Hi everyone. I’ve (f27) had intimacy issues with my boyfriend (m28) our entire 3 year relationship. Before our relationship we were very close friends for years and I am his first relationship and his first sexual partner. At the beginning of our relationship my boyfriend had problems staying hard and we were really unable to have sex. He said it was due to performance anxiety and his porn addiction he had before the relationship. Which I understood both since he was new to everything. But the problems have continued through out our relationship. He only does sex in two positions which is from the behind and he doesn’t look at me or really touch me. He doesn’t make out with me since the beginning of our relationship and he doesn’t touch me sexually really ever. We have sex maybe 2-5 times a month He also doesn’t initiate sex or ask me for any pictures or anything like that. He also finishes within probably 2 minutes and it’s like he’s rushing so he’s able to finish and I feel very disconnected to him and like something is off between us sexually. He has commitment issues also and we seem more of like a friendship above sexual relationship. Today I had sex with him and he got soft after maybe 1 minute and I asked why and he said he doesn’t know and needs therapy. Him getting soft during sex hasn’t happened since the first year of our relationship so it really hurt me. He swears it isn’t due to porn but I’m not sure. He’s typically honest he’s kinda ocd and feels like he has to tell the truth. But idk if I can trust. I really would like some insight with what you think could be going on. I have tried to talk to him about it but he’s very avoidant and kind of secretive about his personal life (he is with everyone) and won’t really tell me more about it. Sometimes I wonder if he’s just not into women. Mainly because in the beginning he was really just interested in anal and the only thing he touches is my butt. And due to his entire family questioning if he wasn’t straight and he is always concerned about looking not straight. Or I’m worried if he just isn’t attracted to me because I’m not his type he explained to me as friends. Or if it could be due to porn addiction or to him possibly being on the spectrum. I really need help figuring this out and I have no one to talk to about it. I’m sorry for the long post but this has hurt me for a long time I really don’t feel attractive anymore.