I went on 4 dates with someone that I really liked – each date was very long, at least 2+hrs. I thought we were vibing & that he liked me too. It’s super rare that I’m physically attracted to someone and enjoy their personality. We also had a 10+ year age gap.
The convos flowed really well & I had him cracking up a lot of the time – he literally thought I was so funny! I really thought I caught him staring at me on the dates too. He even complimented how I dressed a couple of times & recalled on one of the dates a sweater I wore that he really liked.
Nothing pointed to him not liking me or not finding me attractive. He initiated our first kiss on the 3rd date. The 4th date felt a little disjointed & wasn’t my favorite – but I would have continued…. I was really blindsided by his decision to not continue. Our last date we held hands, kissed a little bit. Heck, he even walked me to my taxi, holding my hand the entire time and kissed me good bye.
I asked our mutual friend why he said no & they told me that he’s used to dating smaller girls & it was an attraction issue (which I guess would make sense because he told me “he likes me” he’s just “not feeling a pull towards me”).
I’m just having a little bit of a hard time making sense of it all. You like someone & notice all these things about them… you touch them etc but you’re not attracted to them? Personally, if I don’t like someone, or I’m not attracted to them, I can’t physically get close to them.