Found out my husband went to massage parlors for multiple times. handjobs and having sex with them. His reason why he keeps going there is to get as much as he can and get a new, young and sexy girls. He goes to lady bikini bars too and even asked them if they do massage just to have sex with them. He even told me that it’s not a cheating thing. He masturbates almost everyday. He even thinks porn stars or other women while having sex with me just to cum cuz he can’t cum just having sex with me. I was so devastated until now. Sometimes I just want to disappear cuz I’m so tried dealing with it again and again.
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Friend, I say this with all the love of a stranger on the internet: what do you get from this marriage that means you keep staying when he does this?
He’s not behaving like someone who respects you. He’s not going to change, I’m sorry to tell you.
Contact a lawyer, get your stuff together, serve him papers, and get yourself into therapy to work on your self respect and boundaries.
I’m sorry you’re going through this.
Hookers are addictive because they do go above and beyond to make you feel special and desired(whether they actually mean it or not). Monetary incentive is a very good incentive.
If he is addicted to sex workers, you are never gonna be able to compete because no woman can reasonably compete with sex workers, they are that good at sex.
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Only thing that beats the sex with a sex worker is sex with a woman you have strong emotional connection with. Problem is, rhe burden of maintaining emotional connection falls in the lap of men. Planning dates, making their wives feel special etc
If he is willing to work on it, and willing to get therapy for his addiction, focus on building emotional connection with him, that translates to sex.
If he is not willing to give up hookers, you just simply can’t compete. It’s over
He sounds like a pig🤷♀️ he only cares about himself and his pleasure. Whats the point in staying? He sounds super selfish.