I'll keep it short. I'm going through marriage counseling because we differ on kids (we got married really young). She wants natural born, and I want to adopt. We communicste, we know the possible futures, etc.
For me, personally though, I never wanted any of my own. I never felt the 'urge' to have a child of my own. She describes it as just a biologocal urge, and I'm just not getting it.
I used to work with orphans and I loved it. I loved meeting ankid with a whole life, and it stuck with me. On top of that, my dad adopted me. Since then, I never felt the 'desire' to birth a kid of my own.
Is anyone else in that same boat? I thought i was strictly child free but now I'm looking at "Do I want to reverse this vasectomy to compromise? Maybe one and one?"
But I cant shake that feeling of Luke birthing a kid is something not exciting to me.
I'm in therapy already, don't worry.