Where do most women attempt to meet somebody nowadays?
I’m a man who’s in his late 20s.
I’m giving up on apps since I don’t have the same success I had compared to 2 years ago.
I for one put myself out there by going to bars/clubs, coffee shops, library, and walking in the park.
So far no opportunity has popped up to approach.
Wondering if there’s other ways. So I’m asking directly.
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What do you mean by opportunity to approach
So far no opportunity has popped up to approach. – Sounds like more of a mental block waiting for the perfect romcom moment.
As a guy, not a fan of the apps. I went to a pub quiz a few days back with my brother. We did horrifically because we were just a team of 2. Went to the shop after to get a bottle of wine. Told the cashier I needed it to drown my sorrows from the quiz performance, especially the music round. She said ‘that’s my best topic!’ so I said we need all the help we can get, how about you join next week? She said yes and she’s off work that day, I gave her my phone to put her number in, she called her phone from mine and that’s that.
Gym. Bars.
You have to go through something together with a group of people. Workplaces are the highest because you just not interact, but you went through the same thing, shared taruma, schools friends are the mostly long term friends because you went through a shared taruma. My friends went to india to volunteer, build wells for a few weeks, both never had a date, struggle with online dating, both came back with hot gfs because there was an opportunity to have shared taruma other other people, that they would never get otherwise.
The thing is many of them do not attempt to meet someone. Unlike men, more and more single women choose to stay single.
Back to their exes
I haven’t done it recently but I used to take whatever I was studying to a coffee shop and I would often meet people both in a friendly and romantic way. Nothing really serious ever came out of it but it was a way to be more open. I think it’s better if you read the paper version of whatever because it’s easier to look up / not appear to be shutting other people out.
Now I am just hiding and working on myself. Online dating is a complete waste of time and I am not going out so I can’t meet anyone.
You should put yourself in social situations where you can easily meet women. Bars/clubs, coffee shops, libraries and parks won’t do anything for you when it comes to dating
you are supposed to knock on my door with yummy treats while i binge watch shows with my cat…no?
Being single is so nice tho, I no longer care about red or green flags, I’m just a white flag now lmao
I decided to focus on myself instead. If no one wants to love me I will show myself love.
Women in their 20s go to yoga, shopping, crafting, knitting, Pilates, cafes, rooftop bars….
I am just at home waiting for my husband to knock on my door lol
Home, classes, work, gym
Still trying to figure out how to “put myself out there” but at the same time just feel mostly apathy towards dating. I was thinking of maybe starting volunteering somewhere
I (33F) just hope someone will approach be either at an airport, coffee shop, bar, or anywhere else. I live in a mid-size city and so I really do hope I meet someone eventually. I dont want to be on the apps anymore. MEN! please approach the girl!
I don’t know if I’m fully over apps for good – esp since that’s where most of the men I talk to tend to come from (I use my Snapchat) but I’m taking a break for now because I just find it overwhelming and at times disheartening. I also feel insecure about optics because of social media. I don’t wanna feel pressure to look good compared to everyone else online and in person meet ups have a way of feeling less pressure. However they have been hit or miss – I’ve gotten approached before but none of the men I felt attracted to and there was one guy who I saw at a concert. He was alone and I was alone, we locked eyes but he never started a convo so it never went down. I’m genuinely hoping to meet someone through my work as a business owner which intuitively is something I feel will happen for me when I lock in more and start making moves in my field. However I’m open to other encounters if they seem natural – like airports, dinner lounges, ect
Work, gym, grocery store, home, cafe, bookstore, parks.
Tbh I don’t actively think of dating, I just live my life and I can keep myself pretty entertained. I work a social job and talk to lots of clients and strangers alike, so it’s not like I can’t meet new people.
On the weekends, I don’t see many guys my age out and about alone, so I have no idea where the men are at aside from the gym.
I suspect more men are sick of paying expensive prices at the club or bar and would rather stay home and use the apps. Meanwhile more and more women are moving off the apps.
Hang out in groups and get invited to parties or events where your friends know their friends type of thing.
Go introduce yourself to all cute girls you come around
Into hibernation.
Crying in my bed
The places I go the most often is- grocery stores. Meet me there;) oh, produce section, I don’t go to snacks 🙃
I went out for drinks with a friend and there was new people in the group. One of the guys in the group and I have been chatting and seeing each other at parties and get togethers for a few months now and have plans to do something together in December.
My group of friends have gone on dates with people they’ve met through activities like swing dance lessons, pickleball, and rock climbing!
To bed.
On Reddit reading dating advice.
Or sometimes grocery store.