On Thursday my husband of 14 years confessed, we met up for our sons afterschool sport practice. My husband gets up as im walking in and greets me with a kiss, still holding on to his phone because he was on a call. It sounded weird, he hangs up and i ask him whats wrong bc he had a pale face.
He said “i need to tell you something, i said “ok tell me. He said “not here, its not the place. I said “TELL ME WHATS WRONG”.
He said “im being extorted” i said “by who”
He said “by a girl” i knew where this was going, my heart sank to the floor.
So i asked him “what did you do with her” he said “she wants money, and im not giving her any, she said if i didnt she will call you and tell you everything” i asked him again “what did you do with her?…… did you kiss her?” He nodded his head… i asked “did you fuck her?” He nodded yes… i got up as tears were building in my eyes and started walking towards the door… he followed me all the way outside to the parking lot. I felt like my whole world had shattered. He finally caught up to me and said he was sorry. I asked him if she had proof, he said maybe just some pictures. I asked him “pictures or you guys fucking” he said “no, just making out” i walked to the car and cried my tears out. That night he said it was a few times that he did and he met her at a bar. It was nothing serious but the girl started telling him she was falling for him. He had told her he was married with kids. She didn’t care. I yelled and screamed at him i crieddd so much… 15 year 2 kids and 1 on the way. I cried out to him “HOW COULD YOU DO THIS TO ME, havent i given you everything” he said I wouldn’t give him attention!!!!!! RU F KIDDING MEEEE…
Anywho i kicked him out, he has been begging for forgiveness. But im not giving it to him. He cried and got on his knees. I didn’t believe his words..
he wasnt financially responsible for me or our kids. I work and I never asked him for anything. And when i did which was only 2 times in my life he had said no.
Btw we are 36/39 years old
His little bitch is early 20s with a 6yr old daughter.
He said he used to buy her groceries and once he got the child medication bc she was sick.
I did go thru his call log bc i pay the phone bill, found her number bc she has been calling him endlessly. I called her up, she said they have been together for a year and a half!!!!!! She sent me pictures and videos of them at bars and clubs and making out and kissing for the camera. I was so disgusted seeing the love of my life, father of my kids with someone else. It broke me!
I don’t want to forgive him, but i still fucking love him… but i dont want to take him back.. i have been packing all his shit and leaving them outside the house, he has been getting them when he drives by and sees belongings at the door. I did cancel his phone line and honestly i do want to change my number. Ive blocked him from my social media accts. we were HS sweethearts, i was always so proud to say that, i even told him a few months ago of how lucky i felt being in such a good relationship because we got along, i was so chill with him, he used to tell me he was going out with friends and i used to tell him to just be careful and to enjoy. Now i look back and cant stand but think and wonder if all those time he was “out with friends “ if he was with her?
Anywho the girl had asked him for $500 first and he gave them to her.. but then she said “500 is just not good enough for my silence, i want 5000 now”
My husband is a cheap ass bastard. So thats why he confessed, i am surprised he even gave her the $500 bc he has never in his life given me $500 for anything.
I hope and pray this is the beginning of a better life for me.
But i do want to stay mad at him bc i dont want to take him back, i feel bad for my kids bc they love him, and i do wish I wasn’t expecting his 3rd at the moment. Idk what my life will become…. Send me prayers…