I have been dating my boyfriend, John (fake name) since the start of the summer. When we first started dating, we had sex nearly every time we saw each other (he’s an hour away from me, so we only see each other twice a week) and it was CRAZY good. I like being dominated, and he used to be really rough and on top all of the time. I’d zone out at work thinking about it, it was so good!
Flash forward to the last couple of weeks, we barely have sex, and when we do, I’m always the one to initiate and be on top. Last time we had sex, he kept pulling me closer to him and touching on me, and I could tell he wanted to have sex, but I was the one who ultimately started kissing him and hopped on top. I tried to pull him over to be on top of me about halfway through, and he actually pulled me back on top of him so I could keep riding him. I’m flattered if he just really likes when I ride him, and I can switch it up and be the dominate one every once in a while, but part of me feels like he’s become a lazy lover, and I’m really not sure why or what changed.
I want to talk about it with John, because sex is really important to me in a relationship. I have a really high sex drive, and if I saw him every day, I know I’d want him every day. Plus I genuinely have never felt so physically attracted to man, like he makes me feral sometimes. I really like him a lot, but I’m afraid we both just have different sex drives and might not be compatible. I’m just not sure how to bring it up; I’ve always struggled with communicating my needs during sex. Any and all advice would be appreciated!