How do I get rid of a crush?
I (37F) am happily married to my husband (37M) of ten years. Our relationship is happy and chill, but perhaps a bit dull right now due to demanding jobs, raising our child, etc.
My issue is that I have the biggest, dumbest crush on a colleague (30sM) and I don’t know how to make it go away.
While we are colleagues, we actually don’t work in the same building. I only see him about once a month at work for meetings. I would also consider this colleague a friend. We share a hobby so we get together sometimes (always with others) to participate in said hobby. We have a group chat with the hobby friends and we have occasionally texted just the two of us, always strictly about work or our hobby. I am confident that this is a purely one sided crush, he has never given any indication whatsoever that he thinks of me as more than a friend. There is zero flirtation.
But I still have this crush and he isn’t even my type. He’s smart and talented and funny, but so is my husband. I love my husband and he makes me happy. Admittedly, our sex life right now is infrequent and a bit dull so that may have something to do with all this. I find myself fantasizing about my crush often (stupid stuff like we somehow get locked in a closet together and make out or everyone else has left when doing our hobby and it’s just us and we hook up) and when we are actually together for meetings, I feel distracted and goofy around him. If he ever picked up on how I feel, I would be mortified. I’d really like for this guy to just be my friend, I don’t want to feel this way about him. I’ve even met his wife and she seems really cool, too. Having a crush on him is frustrating and weird.
How do I make this crush go away? Will it just run its course?
TLDR: I’m happily married, but I have a crush and I don’t know how to get over it.