I’m 28m and I feel like I am delusional and naive when it comes to dating. I dont have problems with getting dates or meeting women BUT I always feel that I’m just wasting both of our times and end it too early, to the point where I literally stopped even engaging in the conversation of dating lately. And that is because when I was a kid I built up this idea about dating in my head that I just can’t snap out of, the idea of pure innocent love. The love where we just love each like those knights tales. Now whenever I meet someone it is about sex, or fun or whatever. I have no problem with that but people are confusing lust with love ( or this was my experience). Not that I’d say what’s on my mind out right because I’m actually a little embarrassed that I still think about this fairytale type of love especially that I don’t remotely look like a vanilla person which I’m not exactly… but like you know that love where the other person would genuinely feel sad if you’re in pain or upset? Where you’d be sitting somewhere and just the thought of them makes your day better? Listening to love songs that aren’t about sex? I feel that I’m just an idiot tbh and frankly I sorta gave up on the idea. But I refuse to commit to anyone at all if this idea is dead.