My boyfriend (33M) and I (29F) have been together for three years in a semi-open relationship. From the start, I was clear that I wanted to keep seeing other men and wasn’t ready for full exclusivity. He said he wasn’t interested in dating anyone else and was completely fine with me doing so.
I’ve always appreciated how accepting he was of my needs.
About six months ago, I came across his Tinder profile. He told me it was an old account and that he wasn’t using it anymore. I let it go, even though I know inactive profiles usually aren’t visible for long.
Recently, a friend told me about DoTheySwipe, and I decided to check his profile there. That’s how I found out he’s actually active on Tinder. So he lied. I’m confused about how to handle this. I know I’m not exclusive, but he claimed he was. I feel jealous and betrayed because I thought we were being completely honest with each other.
Why would he do this, and how should I bring it up?
Tl;DR im not exclusive with my bf, but he is with me. Now I found out he is hiding being on Tider from me. What to do?