Men, what advice do you have for me?
I need dating advice pls
Do I still have a shot??
I started dating a man 2 months ago & I really like him. I’ve been single for 2 years and this man really intrigues me in so many ways. We do long distance but I visit his state often for work so anytime I get a chance to- I’d go see him. We’ve made plans for him to come see me too or travel places together. The distance really helps our situation because we get to know each other without the physical aspect of things.
Anyway, things were going really well. Until I got very drunk on my birthday. He was at work, and I blew his phone up 🙁 i don’t know what I said to him but it really hurt him. I woke up remembering context of breaking up, and was sooo embarrassed seeing how many times I called him or spam texted him and he responded that he’s at work, and he’ll talk to me tomorrow.
We got to texting a few days later and he told me I do /say effed up things when I’m drunk 🙁 (if you see my profile, I’m an alcoholic who broke sobriety this year and thought I could drink casually again) I felt horrible because I don’t have any issues with him so idk what I could’ve said to him.
I pleaded with him and apologized. I really like him and I definitely took him for granted. He told me he needed time to think about things and he’ll call me so we can talk over the phone. But not now.
I spiraled again (drunk again) and spam called/texted. He called me again to say he’s at work, and that he’ll call me. I sent him voice memos that made no sense whatsoever 😭😭😭 I apologized again for the last time and told him I’ll give him the space fr. And I have. I’ve stayed sober since, I know it ain’t much but I really want to reconcile and make things up to him.
It’s been 8 days 😭😭😭 do I still have a chance? I definitely plan on keeping my end of things and give him space. I’ll be quiet until he breaks the silence. I’m just bedrotting and doubtful 😭😭😭
For context I am 30 F he is 37. He’s grown, mature and intentional. The time we’ve dated, he stays true to what he says he’ll do so I know I’m not being ghosted but I still wanna know if I still have a chance. He’s never called me out of my name, he’s mature, respectful, kind.
The silence has made me reflect a lot, and I’ve been in toxic relationships before so it’s refreshing to find a man who communicates well and is still respectful even when I’m being an asshole. But I’m unlearning toxic behaviors because I want to be the healthiest and best version of myself, for me and for him.