25F who has been chatting with 30M from hinge since he liked my photo in early October. He isn’t physically the type of guy I’d go for attractiveness wise but I thought why not give it a shot and we’ve been chatting since and so far he seems very responsible and sweet. I was the one to suggest a phone call eventually and he said it was really refreshing to see as other women haven’t tried to do that or ask it.
I’m not really sure how we matched considering he lives about 2 hours away from me, but he said it was fine to continue talking since we’re just talking for now and we can always meet in the middle which I’m also down for. We haven’t met yet in person because I have a severely injured broken foot at the moment. He seems to be very considerate and kind, pretty communicative too which is great but I’ve noticed a bit that he seems to be texting back less frequently and I asked him about it and he apologizes that it’s due to his hectic work schedule (working the medical field)
but I did mention how I do like consistent discussions so that I know the person I’m talking to is interested still and so there’s no mind games or guessing. He didn’t apologize or anything but said he understood and he actually improved after that which was really nice. Every phone call we had I would initiate which I was not really a fan of, but every time he’d be super eager to chat anytime I said I was free to and even said for me to let him know when I’m free to chat on the phone next because he prefers those for more in depth conversation which I understand and agreed.
Our last phone call was about 2 hours and it was really nice. He said he was looking forward to our next one and he did say again how he prefers phone calls for more big conversation which I also agree with but my point still stands that I do prefer some communication for when we can’t chat on the phone (not because I’m clingy) but he’s a new person I haven’t met in person yet and I feel like it helps to know he’s interested when speaking to a new person and our phone calls are more spontaneous in timing than planned. But each has been nice and he’s very enthusiastic and excited to call.
Sometimes I feel like he’s playing hard to get yet he’s very responsive (if there’s a double text) but then sometimes he replies quickly. I’m more confused now since I already said I prefer some communication and he said he understood and eventually down the line he apologized. Yet he hasn’t said a peep to me since Sunday and it’s now Thursday night. Very confused. It’s like I can tell he’s interested, but then doesn’t say anything which I don’t prefer either. As the woman I don’t want to come off like I’m chasing and want the interest to also be shown / reciprocated. I wonder if he’s trying to give me space and let me have the freedom to decide our phone calls but yeah. What do yall make out of this?