I've had some great conversations with my friends, and I think they are kind, but whenever I go on about something that I'm currently fixating on, or I talk about a game I'm playing, they ignore everything I say. Maybe one small message at the most, but usually I don't get a single response. It makes me feel unseen and ignored. Like the things I enjoy are stupid, and not worth my energy.
For example: I wrote tons of paragraphs in a group chat talking about my experience on an animal game that I've been playing. And they don't say one word at all. They either send a video, ping each other, or talk about a different subject, as if I didn't say anything earlier. I'm passionate about that game right now, and it stings that nobody cares. I know virtual pets and animals are for "little girls" in some people's opinions, but I really don't want to be seen as a dumb little girl at 19. I just want to feel heard and cared for. I want someone to at least say something in response to my paragraphs. It doesn't have to be anything fancy or long. I just want to know that it was recognized.
That's not all. I believe a few months ago, I was talking to someone who I consider my best friend, and I said A LOT about a story that I had been writing. I knew it was objectively not a good story, but I didn't care, because I wasn't planning on publishing it anyway. I was only going to show family and friends. But I spent so much time writing my messages. I even sent a few screenshots of my first chapter. You know what the response was? Nothing. I heard nothing back at all. Silence for days, until she just started talking about something else a few days later. It hurts to think about that.
I'd honestly rather my friends just admit that they think my writing could use some improvement, instead of silence. Silence is more painful than anything, in my opinion. And as for the virtual animal games, I guess the only answer to that would be they are not interested in those kinds of games. It's fine. I just wish I could share my passions with someone. I want a friend that I can share everything with. Be myself with, and not have to worry about any of this.
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I just realized that this is probably not a good subreddit to be posting this on. My apologies!
I have a friend who does what you do. They’ll send me walls and walls of text, entire essays worth of messages and then send me YouTube video links and then ask for my opinion on 3 different things throughout the day. By the time I take the time to see what all they sent me, it’s just so much. I feel overwhelmed
Sometimes I’ll tell myself I’ll respond later when I have a bit more time but by the time later comes around, they sent me even more stuff. I’ll usually just respond to the last few bits of what they said. I love them but damn you’ve got me really wondering if this is how they feel