A little background on her and our relationship:
She is a single mom living with her parents. She has ADHD and a difficult child to parent. She came out of a marriage that was real bad, a lot of emotional abuse, manipulation and neglect, but that was 6 years ago.
Our relationship was great. We barely had any arguments, no fights. And we would be very understanding of each other. We lived a little far from each other. We only saw each other on the weekends. 2 of the weekends out of the month would be time spent with her and her son and the other 2 would be just us. We were making it all work and we were both so happy.
Up until this July, she confessed to me that she was depressed and was masking the depression. She didn’t want to go out or on trips or anything like that. At first I had to think about it, but I love this girl so much that I decided to stay by her side and support her through this time.
As the months went by, we spent time together, we didn’t do much, but all I wanted to do was be with her. It didn’t matter if we went out or not. We talked about her depression on and off. About two months ago we decided to take 3 weeks off. Not seeing each other, but still talking daily. Everything seemed fine. 3 weeks ago, we spent a great weekend together, we went had dinner, went to bar and everything felt great. Up until that Sunday of the same weekend, where I saw that she looked sad. I asked her what was wrong and she said everything is overwhelming for her. I asked her if the relationship was overwhelming for her and she said I don’t know. I didn’t think of it as she would break up with me. I told her I’m here anytime she needs me. By Thursday of the next week she FaceTimed me and broke up with me.
I was shocked and confused. I still am. I completely understand that she is going through something and I want to talk to her so bad, but haven’t reached out because I’m sure this extra weight of the break up is extra hard on her along with the depression she’s going through. She is such a wonderful person and such a sweet girl. Wouldn’t hurt a fly.
I am planning on texting her on Thanksgiving with a simple “Hi, how are you? Wishing you a Happy Thanksgiving”
I also want to open up a channel of communication. I’m hoping that text will do that. I want to tell her that I don’t hate her or am mad at her.
It’s such a sensitive situation because I don’t want to further worse the tough time she’s going through with depression. But I’m an emotional and mental mess myself now.
I would love to have her back in my life as my girlfriend. Maybe work something out that the relationship isn’t so overwhelming for her with everything she’s going through. I don’t even know how or when I would bring that up.
Any advice is much appreciated.