Hello all,
Posting here because it's strongly relationship-related, but my problem is also to do with myself.
I've (25m) been in a relationship with my girl (23f) for 1 year now. I'm a foreigner living in her country.
She's basically perfect in every way. I'm the first to admit I can be a pain in the ass (not in an awful way, I just grumble/moan a lot) sometimes but she's got one of those personalities where she just laughs and takes nothing seriously, so it just works between us. I've had relationships in the past where I felt we were together just because we were afraid to be alone, but this one I really feel we have 100% aligned goals and want exactly the same thing. On top of that she's made me a better man all around. Basically there is nothing to complain about in the relationship. There are some cultural quirks but I consider it immaterial.
Today I got the news I will be laid off and I started to consider my life's position. I suddenly realised I live abroad and overall I'm not particularly happy with my life. I rarely see family and I have a couple of friends but I don't see them particularly often. My social life basically revolves around my girl. I began to think that, if I were single, I would probably move home right about now. This would mean moving back in with my parents at least for a while until I found my feet, and it would also mean ending my current relationship. My home country is getting harsh on immigration overall, spousal visas too and it would probably be quite some time – if ever – even if we WERE married – before she could join me. I see no route where our relationship could continue if I were to take this path.
Basically I'm between a rock and a hard place, and with today's news on top it all feels a bit hopeless.
Any advice for me?
TLDR; I feel an almost irresistible urge to move back to my home country, but it would mean ending an almost perfect relationship.