Before the comments start I understand the age gap is significant. And it’s something we’ve discussed at length.
We are in the early stages of our relationship at only 3 months. We spend a lot of time together staying at her place primarily. So we have a routine, but I often feel like we don’t spend much quality time together, we spend time but she’s often very distracted or off doing something else. We sleep together and play wordle everyday. But that’s about it. She’s very dedicated to her work, some time I feel like I’m competing for attention. Now when she talks to old work friends, I feel her lighting up in a way I can’t get her too. Even when I do ask about her work. She doesn’t tell me things in detail the way I do about my work, because I love my work as well. I know this isn’t the most coherent, that’s mainly because I’m not too sure how to explain how I feel. I’m sat here after spending the whole day together and haven’t been able to get her too be this animated and happy as she is with her work friend on the phone. I just feel lonely and hurt. I know I might be unjustified in feeling this way but I can’t help it.
I have spoken to her about this and how I need more but there hasn’t been much change. I really care about her. I am at a loss on how to go forward with this.
TLDR: I feel like I can’t compete with my partners work and will always be second in comparison.
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