Just to preface, my(25m) SO(25f) doesn’t have a mean or malicious bone in her body. However, since we’ve started dating about a year ago she’s shown that she’s a little reckless/careless in her day to day. It only continues, and I’m not quite sure how to handle it
Since the beginning she has been pulled over six times; two tickets, one accident (she was at fault) and three warnings. It’s a little concerning to me that it continued to happen, and she is currently in the middle of a disciplinary hearing since she got a misdemeanor ticket while driving a company vehicle. If the charge goes through, she’ll be walking the tightrope because one more incident could lead to her losing her license and her job. There isn’t much I can say to her since she always insists that she’s being more careful, but just in the last month she’s been pulled over two of those times.
She’s nothing but good to me, but this possibility gives me so much anxiety. I’m not able to drive her around places if the worst case were to happen, and there’s a sinking feeling in my stomach that if she hasn’t learned yet, she won’t now. I don’t know how to handle this, a part of me doesn’t think I’ll be able to continue if that were to happen. Maybe I’m being dramatic, and I hope I am, however this seems to be a situation where our relationship will be tested. Is this a situation that’s worth trying to navigate? Or am I at a bit of loss with trying to make this situation better?
TL;dr, SO is a reckless driver and the real prospect of her losing her license is making me look at our relationship differently