hi all
just got a wall of text from her and want to make sure i'm not the asshole
i've met this lady at the end of 2024 when i started a new job. we became friends, she started to invite me to 1-1 events, we got close, and had an affair. detail: she's in a long distance relationship
it was all very chaotic, but we tried to keep it friendly, since we shared the same work group. to be honest, now i see how degrading it was to help her cheat on her boyfriend and all the situations we've been through
now she moved to a new city due another job, we were no contact for a few months. but she texted our group chat weeks ago to ask about thanksgiving – and i had already something planned. then, she said she would come two weeks before that to our town, and to let her know if we'd like to meet
i said nothing, so she reached out directly, and i politely said i had already planned something out of town (because i didn't want to meet her) and wouldn't be here during the weekend. that chat was on wednesday afternoon
when it was thursday at noon, she texted our group chat to let us know that in the end, she decided to come earlier and was already in town until sunday!
my gut tells me she came earlier to try to see me… lo and behold, when i'm leaving the building where i work, i face her and her previous coordinator chatting. i bumped into them, greeted them politely and walked away FAST. after that, i haven't opened the chat where she was updating her stay
i feel it was intrusive of her to do that, and that she only came earlier because i said i wouldn't be here on the weekend… now she texted saying it felt weird to meet like that and if everything is alright
i don't have the mental bandwidth to deal with her, because she proved to be a manipulative kind of person – and this is one of the examples. i feel like ghosting her completely but would love to hear opinions, thanks