I know those reading this are all at different stages of life, but I myself just turned 34 years old. I’m a completely normal man in my emotional & physical prime, financially stable and feel more ready than ever to meet an awesome gal and connect. Despite this, I have never been in a real relationship or had a girlfriend before. I’m absolutely starved for affection and wish I could have a genuine hug more than anything.
I’m writing this because clearly I’m broken; there’s something wrong with me, I’m cursed, missing the secret rizz or just the unluckiest dude on the planet. I know rejection is normal, and every man goes through it, but I must of broken a world record at this point.
I have no problem making friends, but never in a million years did I ever imagine finding one cute girl to mutually connect with romantically would feel more impossible than winning the lottery. It’s always I’m into her and she’s not into me or vice versa. I get ghosted, or the classic I have a boyfriend; It’s never a mutual interest…never. Can’t even blame my personality because I’m never even given a chance to show it.
- “Just become the best version of yourself”
- “It’ll happen when you least expect it”
- “There’s someone out there for everyone”
- “All it takes is one yes”
- “Just keep putting yourself out there”
I tried cold approaching, warm approaching, hiking groups, board game nights, rock climbing gyms, singles mixers, dog parks, dive bars, night clubs, salsa dancing and more recently even speed dating…hell I can’t even get a match on a silly dating app despite people saying “if you’re not getting any with a profile like that, then the rest of us are fu****.” I even asked my friends for help and all they said was, “I don’t know anyone for you, have you tried the apps?” 🫠
I love myself and who I am as a person. I make people laugh, I’m always smiling, hygiene & fitness are on point, I’m socially confident, and take pride in helping people. I get complimented all the time for being well-spoken, emotionally-intelligent and handsome; I put in effort and take risks…I genuinely have no idea why I’m so undesirable here in Seattle. Aside from being a little below average height at 5’7, on paper I feel like I’m a great guy who should have no issues attracting women; guess I was wrong.
I wish I could know what it’s like to feel wanted back, hold hands and laugh together with someone. My dream of being a dad someday and having a family is basically dead I guess.
I just give up.
I know they aren’t always sunshine and rainbows, but for those in relationships, please cherish what you have.