Every single man who has hit on me or dated me or shown interest in me has ALWAYS turned out to be married. No exception. Does it mean that I'm ugly because men only see me as a side chick?
Two of my closest friends now joke about it and say that I have some sort of married-radar because if a guy shows interest in me, you can be dead sure he is married. They are right. I've never been able to date a man who wasn't married. Of course, all of them have lied to me. Either they say they are separated, or single, or widowers. How do I find out they are married? I work in a company (I can't say which one) and I have access to some databases that allow me to run in-depth searches. I work in the data analytics field. It is part of my job. Just a few examples.
- I met a guy at a conference. He was in town for work with 3 other male colleagues. He was incredibly sweet to me, came across as a nice guy. We held hands. We exchanged phone numbers, we even took photos together. Then he ghosted me. I was able to find out who he was and he is happily married and has two children. I contacted his wife and showed her the photos and the screenshots and she got angry at me and said they must have been AI-Generated.
- I dated a guy 3 times. We met through a dating app. He said his wife had died of cancer. He had given me a phone number and I later found out it was a burner phone number. I was still able to track him down crossing some data and his wife is very much alive. Same thing. I told her. Initially, she seemed receptive and kind, but after talking to her husband, she became aggressive, cursed at me and said that I was jealous and that his husband said he would never be attracted to someone of my ethnicity.
- Another guy approached me on campus. We went out for drinks, and we started talking about dogs. He said he had 2 dogs and I asked him what breed they were. I never heard of that breed, so I asked him to show me the photos. He pulled out his phone and I immediately saw the screensaver. It was him and another woman in the photo. I confronted him and asked him who she was, and he said it was his sister. He also told me I have trust issues and I'm weird and he said he was offended I would think something like that about him.
I've lost hope. I have so many more stories like this. I genuinely think I'm not attractive enough. I've even given unattractive guys a chance, stupidly believing that they would be nicer, and they were still married. Single guys never pay attention to me.