I (26 M) and my gf (30 F) got into an argument.
For my recent birthday, she got me a gtr racing walmart desk. Many times I mentioned multiple things I wanted and one of the things is a standing desk. (I move in place alot and I think it would be nice to stand/sway while at my desk). To preface, she thinks she is a terrible gift giver, where in reality, she just doesnt listen very well.
Anyways, she got me the desk and I tried to be nice and tell her its nice etc but its ultimately not something I like. She went on to tell me all the features it has like charging station, headset holder etc. I told these are things she thinks is cool but what I want is a standing desk(doesnt have to be fancy).
I called her on my break and she goes on to say she is upset that we haven't put it together(the desk) and it upsets her because she got it with her money and so on. I told her that its not cool that she is getting pissed at me when its my birthday and its not something I want anyway and now I am upset with how she is reacting and have to go back to work. She sent me a text a few mins after I said I needed to get off the phone and basically recognized it was the wrong time to express those feelings and apologized. I thanked her for recognizing and apologizing.
What to do? I dont want her to be upset but I dont know the best way to go about this. Any thoughts?