I (27) started seeing a guy (27m) in June. Early on he was pursuing me fast, but I told him in July that I wanted to take things slow and be intentional. We agreed to be exclusive (off the apps) but without labels yet. We checked in again in September and it felt like we were moving toward becoming official. In October he failed an exam that put his PhD program at risk and fell into depression/anxiety. I decided not to ask him to be my boyfriend then and focused on supporting him. He started therapy after being recommended by me and his roommate and got prescribed Prozac and Klonopin as well. Since then he’s seemed more distant. About three weeks ago, while on vacation, he accidentally revealed he was on Grindr. That felt like betrayal because we had agreed to delete the apps. We talked when he came back, and even though I told him I did want to become official, he said he needed time to think because he’s overwhelmed. Last night he said he feels pressured, doesn’t have an answer, but still cares about me. After six months, it now feels like we’ve taken two steps back. The first five months were great, but this last month has been confusing and he seems avoidant and numb. I’m hurt, disappointed, and honestly wondering if I should end things or give it more time.