tl;dr- i feel like ive missed the signs of my boyfriend pulling away. now i feel unloved as im now over analysing everything. am i being ridiculous?
me (19F) and my bf (19M) have been together for almost 2 years: he’s the best person i’ve ever met and my everything. i’m aware i’m quite dependent on him but we are dependant together, i’ve been trying to get a therapist but he insists he can be mine which i’ve told him isn’t healthy.
things have slowly changed in our relationship, especially because so much as happened in our lives during it. most recently, he’s got new friends, new hobbies and sort of a new attitude which gives me a weird feeling as i don’t deal well with change. when things like this happen, i become hyper fixated on little things and start to over analyse them. i’ve started to look back at old messages and noticed how he’s slightly less excited to talk to me, he talks to me less, sends me less ideas for dates, i realised i have planned most dates where he used to equally. he always tells me he loves me more than anything in the world, but recently i feel like im holding on more then him, like i haven’t noticed him slowly pulling away. right now as im writing this, he hasn’t messaged me for over an hour (im guessing he’s probs doing something on his pc), but he would never do this previously and feels more frequent. it gives me a feeling of being unloved (which i know isnt true but it wont go away) am i truly being crazy? does anyone have suggestions to get over myself.