Curious how often do you go out without your partner such as go out to the bar, hang out with friends, hobbies, time alone, etc.
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Most of the time. We both travel for work and this sometimes means needing to do a lot of things alone if we’re not in the same city.
Well we live apart which allows us space! I do some events with my girlfriends and he has his guy time too! I think we spend about 75% of our time together and the rest apart
Very often, almost always lol
That said, he does a lot of his own hobbies and activities without me too. We both have a lot of separate interest and he knows he’s welcome to join me whenever, we just don’t always have the same social battery
We do most things together. I’ll go out with friends or my sister once or twice a week. Other than that we’re mostly doing stuff together when we’re not working
I see friends alone every week or two, and would do something alone (working out, hobbies, seeing friends etc) at least once a week. And we don’t have shared hobbies, so a lot of the time if we’re not working, we’re at home together, but pursuing different things, sometimes in the same room, but mostly not.
Long term relationship, no kids, living together and working from home.
At least 80% of the time. I work out, knit, garden, walk the dog by myself. He plays darts, hunts, and walks the dog alone.
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Outside of work and occasional errand runs to Home Goods or shopping at the mall, hardly ever. Gonna try to start having a hobby without him though and we’ll see how that goes. Sometimes I worry we’re too joint at the hip.
My husband was my best friend before dating and is. We use to do everything together playing games even ironically now after kid we barely do anything together.
We chose to have one stay at home parent and I volunteered. Tbh he climbed further in career and is always working. Kid has an after school daily activities so we rarely spend time together anymore. Unless it is a friends kid bday which is almost every other weekend lately lol
Always.
Oh wait I don’t have one!
All the time.
A couple of times per week I go out with friends or see family without him. At home we do most things together because we have a lot of shared hobbies. We usually take an hour or so every evening to ourselves but sometimes we end up playing video games together through that time.
We both have major fomo so I mostly go out while he is working. He works 60+ hours a week and I stay home so we try to spend most of the evenings and weekends with each other. When he’s tired, I’ll sometimes hit the gym without him.
Going out with friends once a week, normally to a restaurant but sometimes a bar or movies or whatever. Hobbies, whenever I want really, not super often. Time alone twice a week for a few hours. We have little kids so it’s less than I would like.
Fairly often on weekends. We try to each have a day or partial day where we trade off solo parenting our kid. This lets one parent have free time while the other has 1:1 time with the gremlin.
I also love to do long weekends with girlfriends to concerts or other events. I’m trying to get him to plan similar with his friends but they are all homebodies.
Sometimes. I was single for years so I very comfortable going places alone like restaurants. Bars, movies, shopping, travel.
Pretty frequently. I’d say about 70% of my social outings are without him. He has his own hobbies as well. If neither of us has any plans, we’re probably spending about 75% of our time together, but that ebbs and flows with our current interests.
We’re independent individuals and have our own lives that we sometimes enjoy without each other. In fact, I just ran errands alone while he stayed home to work on a project for work. We probably spend half our time without each other.
Very rarely these days. We kind of go through phases with our hobbies/socialization habits, but at this point we’ve settled into mostly just hanging together. We’ve been together 15 years, married 13, and have a 7 year old – I’m sure all those factors play into it.
Not often enough since having children. Maybe 1 “big thing” once a month which could be a Saturday with friends or doing an activity of my own. He would say the same, seasonal though because he is a hunter so parts of the year he’ll he gone for 1-3 nights in a row every week.
Only when he’s gone for work and then we’re always together. Reading here everyone else here does the opposite. Him and I Together 3 years and living together doing everything together
Probably like 3x a week. My friendships are important to me.
About once a week maybe two times a week.
EDIT: we do not live together
A couple times a month, he’s my best friend and even if I’m having fun out with friend’s I miss and talk to him in my head the whole time haha. We’ve been together 17yrs and happily embrace being co-dependent af.
90% of the time I do stuff by myself. He just is no longer interested in the flea markets, estate sales, any kind of shopping. He also has no interest in sitting on the beach or strolling through beach towns.
He is aging way faster than I am and has become slow and tattered.
That leaves me doing all the things by myself, which I actually prefer.
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Basically always. 50% cause he never wants to do anything and 50% cause I’d rather do it on my own than hear him complain about everything the whole way.
Every day. I cannot handle having someone glued to me, I need to do my own thing.
I date people who have a similar personality to mine and also have their own stuff going on.
A lot of things. We work together for now so I prefer not to be in his face always.
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Most of the time. We both travel for work and this sometimes means needing to do a lot of things alone if we’re not in the same city.
Well we live apart which allows us space! I do some events with my girlfriends and he has his guy time too! I think we spend about 75% of our time together and the rest apart
Very often, almost always lol
That said, he does a lot of his own hobbies and activities without me too. We both have a lot of separate interest and he knows he’s welcome to join me whenever, we just don’t always have the same social battery
We do most things together. I’ll go out with friends or my sister once or twice a week. Other than that we’re mostly doing stuff together when we’re not working
I see friends alone every week or two, and would do something alone (working out, hobbies, seeing friends etc) at least once a week. And we don’t have shared hobbies, so a lot of the time if we’re not working, we’re at home together, but pursuing different things, sometimes in the same room, but mostly not.
Long term relationship, no kids, living together and working from home.
At least 80% of the time. I work out, knit, garden, walk the dog by myself. He plays darts, hunts, and walks the dog alone.
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Outside of work and occasional errand runs to Home Goods or shopping at the mall, hardly ever. Gonna try to start having a hobby without him though and we’ll see how that goes. Sometimes I worry we’re too joint at the hip.
My husband was my best friend before dating and is. We use to do everything together playing games even ironically now after kid we barely do anything together.
We chose to have one stay at home parent and I volunteered. Tbh he climbed further in career and is always working. Kid has an after school daily activities so we rarely spend time together anymore. Unless it is a friends kid bday which is almost every other weekend lately lol
Always.
Oh wait I don’t have one!
All the time.
A couple of times per week I go out with friends or see family without him. At home we do most things together because we have a lot of shared hobbies. We usually take an hour or so every evening to ourselves but sometimes we end up playing video games together through that time.
We both have major fomo so I mostly go out while he is working. He works 60+ hours a week and I stay home so we try to spend most of the evenings and weekends with each other. When he’s tired, I’ll sometimes hit the gym without him.
Going out with friends once a week, normally to a restaurant but sometimes a bar or movies or whatever. Hobbies, whenever I want really, not super often. Time alone twice a week for a few hours. We have little kids so it’s less than I would like.
Fairly often on weekends. We try to each have a day or partial day where we trade off solo parenting our kid. This lets one parent have free time while the other has 1:1 time with the gremlin.
I also love to do long weekends with girlfriends to concerts or other events. I’m trying to get him to plan similar with his friends but they are all homebodies.
Sometimes. I was single for years so I very comfortable going places alone like restaurants. Bars, movies, shopping, travel.
Pretty frequently. I’d say about 70% of my social outings are without him. He has his own hobbies as well. If neither of us has any plans, we’re probably spending about 75% of our time together, but that ebbs and flows with our current interests.
We’re independent individuals and have our own lives that we sometimes enjoy without each other. In fact, I just ran errands alone while he stayed home to work on a project for work. We probably spend half our time without each other.
Very rarely these days. We kind of go through phases with our hobbies/socialization habits, but at this point we’ve settled into mostly just hanging together. We’ve been together 15 years, married 13, and have a 7 year old – I’m sure all those factors play into it.
Not often enough since having children. Maybe 1 “big thing” once a month which could be a Saturday with friends or doing an activity of my own. He would say the same, seasonal though because he is a hunter so parts of the year he’ll he gone for 1-3 nights in a row every week.
Only when he’s gone for work and then we’re always together. Reading here everyone else here does the opposite. Him and I Together 3 years and living together doing everything together
Probably like 3x a week. My friendships are important to me.
About once a week maybe two times a week.
EDIT: we do not live together
A couple times a month, he’s my best friend and even if I’m having fun out with friend’s I miss and talk to him in my head the whole time haha. We’ve been together 17yrs and happily embrace being co-dependent af.
90% of the time I do stuff by myself. He just is no longer interested in the flea markets, estate sales, any kind of shopping. He also has no interest in sitting on the beach or strolling through beach towns.
He is aging way faster than I am and has become slow and tattered.
That leaves me doing all the things by myself, which I actually prefer.
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Basically always. 50% cause he never wants to do anything and 50% cause I’d rather do it on my own than hear him complain about everything the whole way.
Every day. I cannot handle having someone glued to me, I need to do my own thing.
I date people who have a similar personality to mine and also have their own stuff going on.
A lot of things. We work together for now so I prefer not to be in his face always.