We've been together for 16 years. Now,three months ago, she decided she wanted us to separate in order to work in our codependency and attachments issues (plus some other of her personal identity issues). She told me she doesn't have any feelings for me or nothing to offer to our relationship at the moment,but I think she said it because she wanted to set hard limits between us.
We have a healthy and very smart 3 yo boy who at moment understands that dad and mom live separately and he spends some times with papa and some others with mama.
For me,It's been 3 months full of grief,sadness and anxiety. When I'm not with our son, I can barely sleep and when I do, I dream of her and our son and we're spending time together, as we used to.
Do you think she misses me,at least as half as I do?
Just wanted to vent,any advice is always welcome.
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You need to stop thinking about that. Focus on yourself
Sounds like she may already be gone. If she is, begging wont bring her back. If she isn’t you need to be strong enough to stand on your own if she wants to stand beside you. So oddly ,in my view, the best way to keep her ,is to grow enough to want her but not need her to be happy.
The three your old son is also watching, do you want to model the kind of behavior you are going through as normal for him to live through?
From the outside seems like you are being abused and manipulated good luck
I thought I was in the same position as you. But we are getting a divorce I guess. So yeah man. Bffs since middle school and this is how it goes down with 2 kids and 1 on the way bro. Just got to keep going for those kids. But I also don’t even know what that means yet. Just find you.
But I totally wonder the same thing.
SHE DOESNT LOVE YOU move on . Now when my ex girlfriend at the time broke up with me I was devasted , I know it’s pathetic still think of her because we never argued once , I was just too slow to move on relationship. She told me out of the blue she doesn’t love me and that was it . My advise is to take a good bit of time to yourself now , the temptation will be to find somebody else quickly . You need time to grieve and hopefully find the right person if you want to . But remember she doesn’t love you so start working on not still loving her .She moved on and got married few years later , I also am married now .