TL;DR
My bf play fights a lot with me and very rough. We’ve been dating 3 1/2 years he wast like this the first 2 years. He’s forcefully cracked my back and I had back pain for 5 months bcuz of it. He also forcefully cracks my fingers even tho I say no multiple times and try to push him away. Physically trying to push him away multiple times doesn’t work for me as I am 120 pounds 5’3 and he is 290 pounds at 6’4. He tells me that he doesn’t stop bcuz he sees me laughing but I tell him I laugh bcuz I’m uncomfortable or ticklish but he is still hurting me.
He will also say “im not even hurting you” even tho I’ll be crying or telling him it is. He’ll apologize sometimes and say he doesn’t know his own strengths and that o should think about intention and that he’s not actually trying to hurt me so idk if that helps. He also makes up safe words for me to use to let him know to stop and it’ll be something stupid like tomato and there are times where he won’t stop until I say that word. It feels kinda humiliating.
The type of play fighting he does a is grabbing my me by my neck and having me hang with all my weight, laying all his weight on my back, attempting to shove his finger in my behind, biting me, cracking my fingers, pretending to throw me out the window etc. I don’t think he genuinely wants to hurt me I think he really thinks he’s playing.
How do I make him stop and actually believe he is hurting me?