so, my husband owns a company. They had a cocktail night to celebrate 40 years in business on Friday. (Owned by his dad prior)
We have been married 2 months and together 2 years.
I’ve been to a few of his events in the past.
On Friday I was trying to be a bit more outgoing, I have zero friends, zero social skills, and no confidence. All I have is my husband and his mom lol
We were in a group, all were late 30s-late 40/ one of the wives was talking about her job.. she’s a doctor, another was a teacher. They turned to me and asked what I do.
I froze up a bit because my social skills suck, and I’m a housewife but I have been looking into a few hobbies/possible programs.
My husband laughed and said “oh she’s a college dropout”
And to make it worse he added that I didn’t actually drop out, I failed out.. 3 times.
Which is unfortunately true, but I had really really traumatic childhood/teen years.. when I went to college I was behind. The reason why I failed the first time is because I desperately needed help mentally and prioritized that.
The next two times I would say are more my fault, struggled to concentrate/pay attention and only lasted a semester for both programs.
Worked as a waitress, dated a guy and got married and found a love for baking/cooking and became a housewife
So I’ve been looking into doing a cake decorating class
He brought that up too, he joked about how I was gonna cost him more money just to take a class on what I do at home.
So I said I wanted to do a class more so I could do it with other women and make some friends be a bit social
And this entire group of other adults said “aweee” like I was a 10 year old.
Ended it all of with the good old “thank god she’s pretty right”
And for the rest of the night a lot of the women that were there were kind of talking to me like I was a kid, calling me honey and sweetheart and I was like.. I’m not that much younger than any of these people
Which really isn’t the point, when I brought this up and reminded him I wanted to move on and not talk about that stuff he laughed and said everyone thinks I’m adorable and I should relax.
He also said nobody cares that much and nobody will remember but he really didn’t apologize at all
I understand it’s all true but I’m really embarrassed. I know it’s my fault, but for one of the wives to talk about being a doctor and my husband follows with that I was so ashamed about it
Everyone was drinking except me, because I don’t drink so maybe I took it too personally because of that? I’m not used to being around a bunch of drunk 40 year olds I guess