We enter this cycle where I don’t want to voice when I get hurt (by small things like their tone of voice when he said something) until it bubbles up and I have to say something bc I have a panic attack.
I know this is destructive behavior and bad for both of us and it’s not healthy. But I don’t know how to stop. I don’t feel comfortable taking up space. I know this is because of my childhood but that doesn’t make it go away.
Has anyone else healed from this and how do I go about it? I don’t want to lose a good thing but it feels like we r going that way.