My gf and I always handled small problems well and it was easy. About a year ago my gf went through a tough time with metal illness I was unaware of and I was dealing with a lot of stress/long hours at work. This resulted in a rough patch between us that lasted close to 2 months. We finally talked it out and I was able to be more understanding and patient which made things easier on her.
However since this time the way we handle small issues has changed.
I recently switched careers with less physical demand/responsibility, more controlled hours and all around less toxic environment, and I have had a lot more energy to be more productive at our home (which I was I big subject of argument, I worked 12+ hours a day and struggled to make an effort to help with daily chores) I’ve also got my patience and easy going attitude back.
But sometimes she will make a passive aggressive comment that makes me boil. Most of the time I let it slide but occasionally it makes me snap and make the situation more than it has to be.
Sorry for the long post but just need some advice on how others deal with their couples problems without getting upset with eachother.
I am very bad for saying the wrong thing unintentionally making my gf more upset