Hey everyone, this is my first post on Reddit, so please bear with me.
I (22M) started dating my girlfriend (23F) about three months ago. Shortly after we started dating, I had to move to another city for work, so we’ve been in a long-distance relationship (LDR) since then.
Before dating me, she was in a four-year relationship with her ex. She told me she ended things with him because she was attracted to me she even said she never found her ex physically attractive. However, she’s admitted that she still hasn’t fully moved on from him and that it’ll take time. I told her I’d give her space and try to be understanding, but lately, I’ve started questioning if I’m doing the right thing or just overreacting.
She’s a very social person and has a big friend group, while I have a small circle of close friends I completely trust. The issue is that her close friend group includes her ex. She still hangs out with them, and honestly, it makes me uncomfortable. I’ve told her multiple times that she can hang out with other friends, but why keep including her ex? She always says it just “happens by chance” that her friends call him when she calls them.
In the last two months, they’ve gone to four movies, one overnight beach outing, and several dinners together. What hurts most is that there’s this one place I’d always wanted to visit with her, and she didn’t want to go when I asked but now she’s going there with her friend group (which includes her ex).
Yesterday we fought because today is her ex’s birthday, and she’s going on a trip to that same place. I’ve told her several times that I’m not comfortable with this, especially since even her ex was insisting she come because it’s his “birthday” and everyone would “miss her.” Despite everything, she agreed to go.
Last night I told her that if she goes, we’re done. She apologized and said she’d “plead with me later” but couldn’t cancel because this would be “the last time” she’d get to spend a day like this with all her friends.
Fast forward to this morning she blocked me. She’s not answering my calls or messages. I’ve called her over 50 times, but she’s left me on delivered on WhatsApp and hasn’t responded at all.
I know she is going to come back and apologize to me about everything and this happened multiple times but this time this does not feel the same.
So now I’m just sitting here, completely lost.
What am I supposed to do in this situation?
Is it normal or okay for something like this to happen in a relationship?
tl;dr my gf went on a trip with her frnd group which has her ex and they are going to the place where i wanted to take her on her birthday date because we are doing LDR now, i had told her several times in the last month that i am not ok with that but still she planned that and today morning she blocked me and went on the trip what can i do now?