For reference I am f 18 and he is m 19. We have been dating for almost a year now and we moved in together just a couple months ago. We had a solid relationship and the timing was right so we decided to move in together. Our relationship is overall very good and I love him very much. However, we argue often. And it’s been taking a toll on our relationship to where we are not intimate with eachother, we don’t cuddle, and it’s just gotten slowest worse. When we argue he 99% of the time will yell at me, sometimes from across our apartment, but mostly in my face. This has been going on for I wanna say 8 months, and I have told him countless times to stop yelling at me. I just hate it. I grew up in an angry household and I just cannot stand yelling now. It scares me, makes me want to cry, and I just can’t do it. After I tell him to please stop since he knows it hurts me he will say he will never yell at me again. Fast forward to now he is still telling me that and his voice has only gotten louder. I gave him an ultimatum about a week ago that he needs to talk to someone about it since he has not been able to fix this on his own or I will leave him. I asked him about it today, and he told me he hasn’t even started to look because he simply doesn’t want to. I just cannot tolerate this anymore. I love him so much and I genuinely don’t want this to end. But this has just been the one thing I cannot handle. I have forgiven him way too much and have seen absolutely no improvement. Please help me understand why this is happening and if I should just leave him.
TLDR: My boyfriend tells me he will stop doing something that he knows hurts me, and do it again. What do I do?