so, weird story y’all. to make a long story short, i had a good conversation with this guy, everything went great, and then he came over… yes we did the deed, all was great. he even brought flowers and everything, but tell me why… he took his used condom home with him. wrapper and all. Has anyone had this happen to them before?

I really don’t care. I’m okay with casual flings right now. But he blocked me on everything to top it off and I got sick to my stomach the day after. I’ve had a fling with other guys and never felt sick like that. I’m just all in all so confused.

is this… an original experience? anyone? please relieve me of this concern😭😂

EDIT – I told him i don’t want any babies when i noticed he was taking it and he said “it’s not that…” lmao


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  2. He took it home so you don’t try to get yourself pregnant with it.

    Kind of a skeez if he’s blocking you after hooking up with you.

  5. Yeeea.   It’s probably because he doesn’t want to risk you trying to trap him. AKA taking the old turkey baster out. I have heard of guys putting hot sauce into used condoms even lol.  Sorry to say seems like they just wanted to hit and quit. With the whole flowers and what not. I mean I would bring flowers but I also don’t ghost people.

  6. He took the condom so you can’t try and baby trap him, it’s simple self preservation.

  8. I wouldn’t worry too much about it. It’s just him doing his due diligence. Obviously most people aren’t going to baby trap another person…but just in case, it never hurts to ensure that it doesn’t happen.

    That said, he probably was a bit overly cautious but you’d rather be overly cautious than the other way around!

    Hope you enjoyed the flowers! Seemed like a nice touch!

  9. Maybe you feel sick the next day because he got you pregnant. And the condom had a hole in it which he put there on purpose and he took it so you didn’t find it. Now he’s ghosting you because he wants to be a deadbeat dad

  12. How soon after leaving did he block you? It’s possible he already knew he was going to ghost you, and also realized it was a pretty shitty thing to do. Since he didn’t know you very well, he might’ve been unsure how you’d react to being ghosted (basically “fucked and chucked”). Maybe he thought he was such a catch that you’d be devastated and, in a fit of anger, might do something with his semen to get back at him or incriminate him.

    Alternatively, he could’ve felt your place seemed sketchy or that some of the people around there gave off seedy vibes. Maybe he worried something could happen that would trigger a forensic investigation, and he didn’t want his DNA from a condom ending up in the household garbage.

    However may have been a simple act to prevent a possible turkey baster baby trap, depending on whether you believe him when you said, “I don’t want a baby,” and he replied, “It’s not that.”

  13. He either wanted your dna to clone you. Or he’s just a fkn idiot. I’m going with idiot!

  17. Have heard from dudes to always take the condom home to run water through it and make sure there’s no tears. For the blocking? He is probably a hoe.

  19. Either to prevent you from potentially baby trapping him, or taking the evidence due to him already being in a relationship and don’t want you to out him

  20. He’s cheating on a wife or something equally fucked up but I highly doubt it has nothing to do with you lol bullet dodged OP

  24. When I was at a particularly bad time in my life financially, I had to get assistance to pay a bill. In order to receive the help, you were required to sit through a sexual education course. One of the things they taught to the guys was that women will baby trap men and to never leave a used condom behind. They said tie it off and take it out the door with you. Honestly it made a lot of sense, especially where I lived, as it was a very common thing to happen to the guys in the military nearby.

    While you didn’t have any bad intentions, there is no way a guy that doesnt know you knows that, so its always better to be safe than sorry.

  27. Thats the realization that he was a “good guy” and its not unusual for those type of narcissistic men to have the mentality that everyone wants to take advantage of this “alpha.”

  28. I guess I’m just out of touch, because I really don’t get the attraction to hooking up with what amounts to be total strangers. I don’t even like strangers elbows touching me on airplanes, ha.

  29. Nothing wrong with this tbh. The blocking is dumb, but taking the condom, while slightly paranoid, is fair game.

  31. Whys everyone flipping out because she got blocked? It was a hookup and clearly one time hence the blocking. Sex might of been awful she might of been awful can be 101 different reasons she’s blocked. Poor hygiene too embarrassed to say anything? The list goes on …..

    And in regards to the jizz it’s his he can do what he wants with it.

  32. Okay I haven’t seen anyone suggest this yet, so just for fun – I saw a post on Reddit a while back about a guy who had great sex with his girlfriend multiple times a day but he couldn’t finish.

    He was embarrassed and didn’t want his girlfriend to feel bad or think he was a freak, so he made sure they always used condoms and he’d just pretend to finish after/with his gf, then he’d do some quick slight of hand and get the condom off and out of sight before gf could notice he’d been faking.

  34. In this day an age, taking the condom back with you is just common sense precaution. There’s a lot of crazy out there. Maybe he’s a dick or maybe he noticed something that he considered a red flag and that’s why he ghosted. Sucks either way.

  35. I’ve had a guy do this to me too. Not the blocking, but the other part. It’s weird imo.

  36. Definitely weird of him to do, maybe there is good reasoning but that remove the paranoia vibe. Sketch of him to block you but seems like you dodged a bullet.

  37. Honestly, he probably is a total d-bag and very well could be in a serious relationship, so has to delete all communications to hide this proof of mutual hookup, took the condom with him planning to ghost and worried a scorn woman claiming a date rape situation could have some previous Pervy charge and so it wouldn’t take much to look guilty and he deleted any proof that it was consensual from his wife. Maybe he has been accused before so he takes anything that looks like it could be used as evidence

  38. If a girl says don’t worry, I’m on birth control that is the number one time you should definitely worry

  39. He was gonna save it for 1) store it in like a momento box with all the others from other women 2) see #1 3) rinse and reuse it for the next woman.

  40. My first thought would be just incase you are nuts and decide to use the material to get pregnant sneakily after he leaves. I’d probably do what he did to be honest. He’s mitigating risk

  41. So you can’t commit paternity fraud on him, and make bank. Blocking you was unrelated to that, and probably because the sex was bad…

  42. You don’t feel odd “hooking up” in your home with a random stranger who immediately blocked you afterwards… I’d feel small…

    He literally came and went and got you on Reddit 😆…. Whew that’s deep.

    Was the D even worth it?!

    Anyways, if you enjoy casual sex do it at a neutral location or at his place. Your home should be reserved for your actual man… If he wants to be a bachelor he needs to provide a pad or pay for a room. Y’all gotta stop letting these guys use you and dispose of you, it makes it bad for those coming behind you because they will think this is acceptable and it’s not😅.

  43. He sounds like a complete tool.

    However …This was huge in the early 2000s. I had some friends who would do this. One of my guy friends actually has full custody of his daughter….the mom did the whole used condom thing. The mom actually bragged about it and told alot of people. So I guess I don’t blame men. But boy, maybe casual sex isn’t for some folks who just wouldn’t want to parent or care for a pregnancy.

    I’m all for casual sex. But, man. What a weird thing. The LAST thing I would be picking up, is some used slimy condom and putting it in my jean pocket! And a jean pocket is best case scenario LOL.

    Also, am I remembering right? Didn’t Drake do this? Take his nasty condoms with him?

  45. My roomate had a guy throwing them around her room, she found one in her decorations on a wall shelf..

    I rather have them taking it with them 🫠

  46. Yeah pretty sure hes just trying to be safe, people lie. I mean you’ve been on reddit lol theres some crazy shit going on

  47. Each gender has their own reasons for and tactics of being better safe than sorry.

    *shrugs*

    It is what is.

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