I recently had a baby and returned from maternity leave. I have 2u2 and got a new job working part time remotely for really good money ($90/hour, 25 hours per week 12-5pm) basically my dream job.
We took our kids out of daycare because we both work remotely and could flex our schedules around caring for them while spending time with them and saving money.
Partner just started Paternity leave today and it was the first time I asked him to watch the kids, just for a few hours so I could focus on meetings. He seemed OK with this in the morning.
He left to do some work for his business around 9:30 am. He knew my meeting started at 2pm.
At 1:15 i called him to see if he was on his way back and he questioned why I hadn't called him yet (I was busy with a million things). This made me think he stayed out all morning to make me upset (because he'd expected me to call asking where he was).
He then went on a rant about how he 'cant do this every day' because he has things to do and watching them would impact this.
Admittedly I got upset because I do 90% of the child care (his mom is helping for now but is leaving soon). I told him I just needed 2 hours and that's not a lot to ask. He got angry and threatened to turn around and not come home to watch them. I told him that sounds like he wants to sabotage my job and he hung up on me after screaming at me.
He did end up coming home and I was angry so I gave him an attitude and told him if its so hard for him I'll just take my children and do my meeting I don't need him.
He then threatened to kick me out of the house snd turn off the wifi for disrespecting him.
He then went to sleep and had his mother watch the kids anyway while I did my calls. Even though he apparently had so much important work to do which is what started the whole argument in the first place.
He always says my job contributes nothing to the household and I should just be watching the kids not working. I may be paranoid but I offer to pay bills toward the house and he refuses. I think he just doesnt want me to have my own money with how critical he is of me working.
Am I asking too much?
Does it sound like he wants to sabotage my job?
Am I being ungrateful by giving him an attitude even though he doesn't make me pay bills except my own.
I just felt so much anger and resentment because I don't go off and nap whenever I want like he does. He NEVER wants to give me time to do my work like I do for him
I clean and cook take care of 2 babies and I end up being the one constantly criticized.
On top of that he was talking about how he wants another kid but literally cant handle caring for the ones we have on his own.