Link to video showing my profile: https://streamable.com/6v2r57
I use Tinder, Bumble, and Hinge (seen here) and my profile looks/reads relatively similar across all three. I have very little success on any of the apps. I'm honestly lucky to get ONE match on any single one of them every couple of months or so. Even when I do, it's almost always a ghost within a couple texts. When I do dare to pay for a subscription (I know I shouldn't), and the app shows me who is liking me, it's 100% always women I am not interested in. I'll be honest, I'm really not trying to be mean/insensitive, 95% of the time—It's women who are drastically overweight. I honestly just don't find that look attractive, and as someone who is not overweight myself, I don't feel that it's too high a standard/hypocrisy etc.
I'll see girls on there that I'll have a lot in common with, and pay for a "first impression" (Tinder) or a rose (Hinge) and send a thoughtful message. These never get acknowledged/responded to. There's all sorts of mixed opinions online as to whether these boosted sorts of likes are worth a damn, or whether or not they give off "desperation vibes." Seems like a bit of a lose-lose scenario. You either get seen, but come across as desperate, or get buried at the bottom of a 50 like pile and are never seen.
Maybe this is just how it is for men on dating apps now and it's all just kind of a lost cause, or
- Maybe I'm actually a very unattractive guy and don't realize it. I understand that long hair is a double-edged sword, especially, with some women being very into it and some being very not. I feel like I try to take good care of it and keep it looking good, but idk.
- Maybe there's something just *drastically* wrong with my dating profile that's majorly turning off otherwise prospective matches.
Brutal honesty is appreciated.
P.S. — Feel free to commentate on the voice note, that's why I included it. But just also realize this is a Hinge-only feature that isn't present on my Tinder and Bumble—Where I also get no matches.