I’m a 25M and honestly I feel stuck. Recently I met a girl online and we had been chatting for a while. Everything felt easy and natural, and I really thought we were getting along well. Then the topic of dating history came up and I told her I’ve never had sex. She said it was fine at the time, but two days later she completely ghosted me.
I’ve never avoided sex because of fear or religion or anything like that. I just wanted to wait for the right person and not rush it. I always thought being serious about relationships was a good thing, but lately it feels like most people see that as a red flag instead of something positive.
It’s frustrating because it feels like a loop you can’t escape. You can’t get experience without dating, but you can’t date because you don’t have experience. And being honest about it only seems to make things worse.
I know a lot of women are pretty selective about this stuff now, but is there any way to break out of this cycle? How do you even talk about being inexperienced without it sounding like a turn-off, and instead make it clear that you actually care about doing things right?
Any advice or perspective would really help.