She has had this for as long as she remembers (she's in her early 20s now). I offered that it could be vaginismus and we looked it up together but for whatever reason, she does not think so.
Basically her vagina is just extremely tight and it is very difficult to get inside. She has always experienced pain when attempting vaginal sex so she has refrained from even trying it much in the past. On some nights when she really wants to try with me, we are able to get my penis inside her, even fully, but it takes a looong time to get there and many small in and out attempts to get it going. We can get to the point where "going in" is not painful but she always experiences a high degree of pain when "going out".
She has expressed to me many times that she wants to have vaginal sex with me and wants to work on it together. She thinks its just a case of "stretching out" enough, but I'm convinced theres also a high degree of psychological component to it?
She believes she is just unusually tight, but I am convinced its something else. What do you guys think?
And for people who have experienced this, is it possible to overcome and HOW?
Edit: She has seen an ob/gyn about it, before we met, and in her words "She just told me I need to get used to it." We didn't talk in detail about the appointment, not even about a diagnosis or anything but I recall my girlfriend being very annoyed with/dismissive of the gynecologist because she was simply told something along the lines of "its no big deal, you just need to keep trying sex and it will go away". Again – this is what my GF told me, we did not discuss it in much detail, I have no way of knowing if this is actually what the ob/gyn said.