Serious question for the men here.
I got into a huge fight with my brother today about one of his friends. Said friend openly believes women exist to service him and his parents, constantly disrespects women, and thinks we should keep our mouths shut.
When I called this out, my brother told me I need to "compartmentalise some things" and that this guy can still be a "good friend" despite his views on women. He dismissed my concerns entirely.
So I'm genuinely asking: How do you separate someone's fundamental character like how they view and treat half the population from whether they're a "good person" or "good friend"?
Do you actually believe misogyny is just a flaw you can overlook, like being bad at texting back? Or do you recognize it as a core part of who someone is?
And if you do stay friends with guys like this, what does that say about what YOU think is acceptable?
I'm trying to understand the mental gymnastics here because right now it just looks like a lot of men perform progressiveness but don't actually care when it counts.