One of my exs cheated on me so many times. After we broke up he kept asking me if we had a chance of getting back together in the future.
He was the most pathetic excuse for a "boyfriend" that I ever had. He was rarely there for me when I needed him. He let his mom treat me like shit. He pretended to be single when he was with me cause he constantly cheated on me countless amounts of times. He did not help me emotionally, financially or sexually. He was extremely selfish in bed. He wanted me to give him oral sex all the time but he never did the same back to me. He got mad that I refused to send him nudes of myself. He rarely wanted real sex (penetration) until later in the relationship.
For the first few months he only wanted foreplay and naked pictures and then even when he finally decided to have sex he rarely wanted it. I even caught him trying to take photos of me while I was naked in the bathtub even though he knew I was not comfortable with that. He tried to play it off as a joke when I caught him. He also let his mom kick me out of the house. (She did not have a good reason. Shs just had serious jealousy issues).
I was there for him through so much and he was rarely there for me. I was there for him when he almost died from his motorcycle wreck and I was also there for him when he got himself in jail. I even helped him get a job after he kept failing so many interviews at other places. (We were both young adults and it was his first job)
After i broke up with him he tried to get me back several times. I had to change my number after the break up cause when I blocked him he called me from someone elses number. Even during the break up he kept crying and acted in denial.
The guy I cheated with, it was not planned on my part. I was completely caught off gaurd when he told me he liked me. He knew I had a boyfriend but he still confessed his feelings for me. He was single but when we first met I originally thought that he had feelings for someone else cause he talked about her all the time. But he eventually told me that his feelings for her changed and that he liked me now. When he first told me I felt blindsided but also confused and dumb.
I kept thinking "Why did he tell me that if he knew I had a boyfriend?" And "I thought he liked the other girl." But over time I ended up falling more and more inlove with him. He helped me realize that I CAN do better than the guy who treated me like shit. Part of why I stayed for so long (before I met the new guy) is because I thought I couldn't do better or because I thought "Even if you did do better all guys will treat you the same." The new guy was there for me more than my actual boyfriend.
My shitty (now ex) boyfriend tried to get me to marry him after I told him I liked someone else. He drove to my house after I came home from a date with the new guy and banged on my front door to force me to let him in my house. After he tricked me into opening the door for him he ran past me and let himself into my house. After he got me to confess where I was we both started crying and I told him he was a hypocrite cause he is the one who cheated on my all the time. Then a week after that he proposed to me and he kept wanting to prove himself to me. In my mind I kept thinking "Where was this before? Why weren't you there for me sooner? Did it seriously take me falling inlove with someone else to get you to step up?"
Even when I finally left him for the new guy he was in denial and wouldn't let me leave. He even tried calling me from other numbers after I blocked his number and he tried to add me onto a life insurance policy even though we were never married.
It has been several years since all of that and out of nowhere he tried sending me a friend request on facebook a week ago. Wtf.
Edit: I also want to add that what I did was emotional cheating. I did not have sex with the guy until long after the break up and we did not kiss until long after the break up either. My ex who I cheated on had a nasty habbit of sending naked pictures of himself to several women, going to his exs house behind my back, made sexual comments to other women, asked one of his female "friends" for a blow job when he went out on a date with her behind my back and he pretended to be single. When I told 2 of the girls that he cheated on me with that he was my boyfriend they thought I was lying and did not believe me until they heard it from his mouth. He pretended to be single whenever I was not near him and he even kept his facebook relationship status hidden. I was able to see it on my account when I clicked on his profile but my friends said that they did not see any kind of relationship status on his facebook when they clicked on his profile.