Been on 4 great dates with a guy so far over a 2 month period- he asked me out 3 times and then asked me to plan the 4th date which I did. Bit slow but he was travelling in between- he’s trying to set something up weekly now.
He paid on the initial dates but I’ve also paid on the later dates so we’re fairly equal now as I’m not in it for free dates.
Now he’s engaged in person, remembers little things about me, listens to me yap with interest, answers my questions thoughtfully on dates and always ends with a see you soon and follows through. No flakiness.
His texting speed has really dropped over time though and that makes me question his interest. Sometimes he replies within 24h sometimes he takes days.
I like him so far and see potential but not ready to put a label. I wonder if he’s feeling the same so isn’t investing too much in between dates and talking to others? Can people tell me if guys can act like this even when they are genuinely interested? Do I continue seeing him or cut him off?
Also given our cultures he’s not escalating things physically beyond hi and bye hugs and a random arm brush, hand on waist as he knows I wouldnt want to go fast so I know he’s not seeing me with the hope of sex or anything.
Context- he works 12h daily in a high pressure finance job and has a good social life + client evenings. But he managed to text me more before asking me out first time.