The guy – that I’m think about going back to – was super nice. He bought me flowers, complimented me, planned elaborate dates and is just overall a truly kind guy! But he’s done some things that make me question if he just wants me for my body. One time, he went on listing every nice thing he’s done for me (which I agreed with and expressed how much I love him). And then he asked me how I show my love for him. I stated every nice thing I have done for him. but he went on to say that everything he does is better and the only way I can make it up to him is by sex or blowjobs. This made me feel super uncomfortable because he also made comments about how I was a “good girlfriend” because I was a virgin (when I met him), referred to me as his “trophy wife”. Even when I would go on about how much I loved him as a person and his personality, and everything about him, etc… his only response to me was that he’s thankful that I am “his” and that I’m beautiful.
I think that’s it’s important for your partner to be attracted to you. But I feel uncomfortable with how he treated me as an experience or a object that he has possession over rather than an actual human being. Am I being too dramatic? Is this how most men treat their partners? Because other than that he’s the most perfect man and he’s so caring and passionate.