My husband works a demanding job. He’s at his office job for pretty much the whole day (9 am-8 pm). I barely get to see him. But when I do, he’s always glued to his phone. He WILL NOT let it go. When he uses the bathroom, when making coffee, when getting ready, even if he’s on the phone with family or friends he’s also scrolling on his phone. He rarely even has the patience to put it into the charger and let it charge, he’ll usually just scroll on it while it’s plugged in. He’s also almost always wearing noise canceling ear buds and is listening to podcasts/youtube videos. The news, stocks, engineering, AI, food topics – he has a lot of interests and likes to learn about random things.
He could be on his phone for HOURS. But he can’t be with me for more than 30 mins MAX without it. Him and I can’t have a conversation. The phone has completely taken over.
I get that he needs to unwind but to unwind 90% of the time that you’re not in work seems excessive. I bring it up a lot. But it doesn’t seem to really click with him. I mean it clicks in the sense that he knows it bothers me, but not enough to see it as an issue he’s willing to seriously work on.
It’s coming in the way of our communication, intimacy (which btw he’ll hop on twitter the second we’re done being intimate), his time with our child, his quality of sleep, etc. He’s always got some excuse to be on it (checking out good deals on groceries, buying us some coffee, catching up on news). He’s mainly on twitter. Sometimes YouTube. And then a little of texting family/friends, Reddit, and other apps. He doesn’t have any dumb social media apps like Instagram, TikTok etc.
I’ve talked about this so many times and no changes have happened. In fact, I feel like it’s getting worse. He has no hobbies, doesn’t go to the gym, doesn’t have any friends. His phone sees his face more than I do.
Idk what to do. I’m so tired of bringing it up. He’s overall a great husband. Loyal. Helpful. Pleasant. Loving. But that’s for the few moments in a week that he even gives us the chance to interact.
I’ve asked for phone free days/time slots but it’s never honored or taken seriously. Idk what to do. Or if I should just accept it and let it be and accept my reality…