My wife and I have been married for 25 years, we have a grown daughter and a 4 year old son. I recently discovered she was drinking a fifth of tequila a day. She knows I don't like her drinking so she's been sneaking out of the house and drinking elsewhere. Somewhere along, she started having an affair. I found out this past weekend. After confronting her its clear the drinking is the cause for everything. I love her and im so devastated but this. I haven't eaten in 6 days. She says she's still wants to party and this guy has been supplying he's alcohol and weed needs. Im so lost and I dont know what to do. I knew something was wrong, but she hid the drinking so well. He dad was an alcoholic and he's the one that got her smoking weed daily since she was young. She says she isn't ready to party and keeps threatening to leave. I know i can't make her stay but I love her so much. I need help fast.
She's now admitted to smoking meth and any drug she can get her hands on. Wants group sex and singers parties with the guy She's having an affair with. Idk what to do. Im thinking of getting a protective order in place to protect our son from the emotional damage caused by her constant weed and drinking habit.
I hate myself for still loving and wanting it to work out but she seems dead set on leaving.
ADDED: Our 25 year old daughter is giving birth to our first grandchild in 2 days. My wife is so mad at her she doesn't want to go if im going to be there. So sad.