Hey everyone,
Me 27M, her 24F
I’ve been talking to this girl for a while, and things are kind of stuck between friendship and something more.
We used to talk in the past, and I told her I only wanted a relationship, I couldn’t see her as just a friend.
Recently we reconnected, She knows that I see her as something more, but still seems to want me close. When I tried bringing up the “what are we?” topic again, she brushed it off with “I’m not in the mood for this conversation” and then changed the subject.
She’s been in an on-and-off relationship for a long time with somebody, but lately (past couple months) we’ve been spending more time together, talking, going out, etc. I can feel myself catching feelings again, honestly like they never left.
I stopped comunication with her like 8-9 months ago because I had an honest comunication where I said that I can't see her as just a friend and I want something more and since 2 months ago we didn't talked at all.
Now… we talk daily, go out(her bf knows), she wants to play some multiplayer games with me, she makes plans with me, but… like I said she brushed me in a text.where I wanted to know what's complicated between us.
I know the fact that she has a relationship should make me stop, but she knows I want something more, why would she keep me around ?
Tomorrow she's coming over, I need some advice on clarifying what we are and where we stand without destroying the mood snd stuff, but getting the answers I want without her brushing me off again, because I start to get frustrated about this situation, because it's not what I want, before I start going nuts into overthinking and stuff…
I want to know what she wants from me, friendship, friends with benefists, relationship… obviously I would want a relationship than anything else…
Thank you so much in advance.
TL;DR
She's in a relationship, I've always had feeling for her and I never saw her as just a friend and I can't do that, that's why I stopped comunication with her some time after I had an honest convo.
We reconnected for a few months now, we go out, she talks daily to me, she likes my attention, wants to play some games, even if she knows I love her.
But, she’s coming over tomorrow, and I feel like I shuld ask how she actually sees us, just friends, friends with benefits, or something more, before I will start to lose myself to it.
How should I bring this up without making it awkward or pushing too hard ?