Been talking to a guy for a while now and we like eachother. We really haven’t talked about where this is leading to. No rush..I’m enjoying the moment but something has been bothering me.

I know this guy likes me. He’s always calling me and making effort to see me. There hasn’t been actual dates yet. Im starting to think maybe he’s not over his ex I feel.

He has mentioned her a lot now and it’s bugging me. I don’t know if it’s too early to confront him about it and I’m also scared to come off too much.

These are the scenarios where he mentioned her.

  1. I want to go try this new spot. It’s a cute little brunch. He said we could go and I told him it’s really close by. He goes “oh my ex lives around there” so random!!!!!! So I say “oh are avoiding her?” He told me he isn’t but would be funny if he ran across her.

  2. He mentioned how his ex would always criticize people who drove beat up cars and he hated that. He also hated how superior she felt. 🤷🏻‍♀️

  3. We were talking about cosmetic work. How I’ve Been tempted to get a boob job. He said “please don’t! You look beautiful and natural” then proceeds to say how his ex had work done and she lied about it. He said he hated that and loves natural beauty.

  4. Again, this last week he brought her up again and said how she felt so superior. And also mentioned how she had big boobs and a big butt? He said he lied about getting cosmetic work done and how he didn’t know. Again, he said he didn’t like that. I felt so uncomfortable….and he starts to laugh and say “that looked so ugly” I got fed up and told him “I don’t have big boobs or a big butt so I’m good off all that.” He says “awww no stop. I love your boobs and your nipples. I think you look beautiful. Still frustrated, I said. “Then why were you with her?” He tells me “that’s why she got left”

All comments are something negative about her how she was a liar, not supportive, and lacked humility.

This has happened in a span of about 8 months now. I feel like he still can’t go over her and I’m about to tell him “seems like you can’t get over her” I’m so bothered.

I did a little digging in his social media. I looked at his Twitter and it seems like they broke up in 2021. I met this guy in 2023 and didn’t develop interest until this year. When they broke up, he seemed pretty sad about it because a lot of his tweets sounded like he missed her. One said “no matter the circumstances I’ll always love you” this was dated to 2021. But he told me he dumped her?

Also I kinda tested the waters and gave him the same energy by replying back “oh my ex was like that too! He was asshole.”

Actually my ex was abusive and when I mention him he goes “I don’t want to hear this. It makes me mad how bad he hurt you” he always changes topics when I mention my ex. One time he even said he felt like my ex and I had a lot of similarities like the same taste in music ….he looked bummed.


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