I know we all get frustrated and worse by modern dating woes, but then I started thinking about what dating was like merely a hundred years ago. It didn't exist. It still doesn't even in a few places around the world. People didn't marry for love by and large. They were all arranged marriages, often loveless.

Dating nowadays is a freedom that we often take for granted. Sure it's not perfect. But it's a lot better than how it all worked most of human history.


6 comments

  1. Dating didn’t exist maybe but partnership did. There’s still no love today. Back then maybe they were with people they didn’t love but at least they had support and people who cared.
    Today we have no love AND no support. No one wants to connect anymore. Everyone has to be “self sufficient”

  2. Yep. Marriage used to really only benefit the powerful (and often the insufferable). Nowadays it’s quite the challenge even—nay, especially for them. I love an even playing field.

  3. i also think that “freedom” is exactly what’s breaking people right now. too many options, too little community guidance, and too much emphasis on individual satisfaction. before, people had structure… now it’s all self-curated chaos. so yeah, we’ve got freedom, but freedom without wisdom feels like roulette sometimes.

    still, i’ll take messy modern dating over being legally bound to someone i barely know any day. at least now, heartbreak’s a lesson not a lifelong sentence…..

  5. it’s just all this online dating it’s no good you got to let somebody take you out to dinner and treat you like a lady

  6. I feel like everyone just wants something casual. I haven’t been on any dates for 8 months cos I don’t want to waste my time with men who dont know what they want.

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