Me (22F) and my partner (34M) have been going through a tough time. We’ve been together for 4 years, we are engaged and have a 2yo together and overall have lots to be happy about. Recently, I’ve been feeling very lonely and emotionally neglected/abandoned and I’ve been trying to be clear that I need reassurance and that I’d like him to express that he wants to spend time with me and wants to talk to me so I can feel secure about our connection. His main response is that he’s doing everything he can and it’s just not enough for me. I’m trying to be patient and understanding of our different needs, so I’m at the point where I’m asking myself am I too needy or am I really being neglected and minimized.
I love him so much and would love to spend the rest of my life with him. I’m trying to find therapy for myself and we are at the point in couples counseling that our counselor has suggested we reevaluate if we continue to be together. Thoughts?
Edit: Age Gap comments are pointless. I’m not an idiot and obviously I acknowledge that it’s not “conventional”. I really just want honest feedback on if I’m being unrealistic/crazy/needy.