Hi everyone,
I’m a 26-year-old guy. My last serious relationship lasted about three years, and it ended a little over a year ago. We had some amazing moments, but since it ended, even good memories hurt to think about.
Lately I’ve been wondering — if I somehow had the option to erase all memories of that relationship, would that actually help me heal faster, or would I lose an important part of who I’ve become since then?
Part of me feels like holding on to those memories keeps me stuck in the past, but another part thinks that erasing them would mean denying the lessons and growth that came from that time.
I’m not asking in a fantasy sense — more like a real emotional one. Have any of you gone through something similar where you wished you could “erase” a painful relationship, and did it help or backfire when you tried to block it out?
I’d really appreciate some perspective on how others have approached this kind of pain.
TL;DR: 26 M, relationship of 3 years ended a year ago. The memories still hurt even though they were once happy. Would forgetting them help healing, or is keeping them important for growth?